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Paced Feeding

27 October 2024

We can watch out for the signs:

  • Restlessness and discomfort

  • Hands in the mouth or an attempt to suck the hands

  • Turning the head back

  • Closing the mouth

Even if infants do not want to taste or eat a certain food, we can trust them that this is the right thing for them at present. We should not get disappointed or try to convince them to taste it, but just continue to offer it again on the next occasions. We should remember that it takes a long time to learn to eat diverse food and it takes a lot of patience on our part. We can do it by continuing to serve the foods we believe our infants need repeatedly, but let them have the last word. At this stage, we can put our concerns aside. Later in the article we will tell you when it is advised to consult a medical professional.

The ten steps of paced feeding

  • 1
    Comfortable, upright sitting

    Put your infant comfortably on the dining chair with support for the feet or hold your infant in your arms. It is advised not to feed them on a trampoline or beanbag.

  • 2
    Eye contact

    Feeding face to face, looking into the infant's eyes and smiling, contributes to a sense of closeness and calm and allows us to respond quickly to any signal or sign by our infant.

  • 3
    Feed calmly

    Feed the infant in a relaxed, pleasant atmosphere, at a slow, attentive pace.

  • 4
    Golden time

    Mealtime is a wonderful time to strengthen our bond, closeness and relationship with our infant. This way our infant will learn that mealtime is pleasant and rewarding.

  • 5
    Consistency

    Make sure to have orderly meals at fixed times to the extent possible, with consistent, recurring exposure to healthy and diverse foods.

  • 6
    Listen out for signs

    Feed according to your infant’s signals of hunger and satiety. If you are not sure what the signals of hunger and satiety are, you should consult a nutritionist, to whom you can show mealtime videos that you can watch together to learn.

  • 7
    Feed using a suitable spoon

    It is recommended to use a flat silicone spoon. Place a little food on its tip and bring it close to your infant’s mouth. If he or she opens the mouth, gently put the tip of the teaspoon into it and allow the infant to control the amount of food he or she scoops up. It is better not to push the spoon to the palate at the roof of the mouths with the intent to help. If the infant does not open the mouth, wait a little and try again, gently. If the infant continues to refuse, he or she probably is not hungry anymore and you can end the meal. This is the time to remember and that infants’ wonderful regulating mechanism allows them to know when they have eaten enough.

  • 8
    Patience

    Learning to eat is a long process consisting of many stages, and sometimes the onlooker can feel that it is like "playing with food". It is important to remember that all stages are important, even critical, for learning and developing. Give infants time to learn comfortably and freely experience with food, without intervention or any sense of disappointment if they eat "just a little".

  • 9
    Respect refusals

    If you see that your infant signals reluctance to eat, or if it seems your infant is not hungry anymore, do not insist. Stubbornness may lead infants to eat less and develop a negative attitude towards food and mealtimes.

  • 10
    Do not forget to breathe

    The eating learning process is long and continues throughout the child’s first years. Every infant has a different pace and different preferences. Let infants have a sense of control and progress without pressure, worry or disappointment. If necessary, you can seek professional advice.

You can and should seek advice